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evanquah


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Greetings everyone,

Everyone wants to experience their happily ever after but as we know relationships are never that simple. Disagreements, arguments and fights are all part and puzzle of relatioships. Matters are further complicated in a long distance realtionship.

A couple's separation by a long distance really puts a strain on a relationship. It is probably the no. 1 cause of relationship failures and breakups as the couple grow increasing distant from each other. There are many members within the corps who have had to leave their significant others when they left their hometowns to study in USM.

Despite the distance, some have successfully managed their relationships over the years. Success stories include Chin Teng, Soon Jiun, Mun Pung & Soon Cien (Always hiding his girlfriend, maybe that's why). However, the have also been major failures. Our corps is not short of stories of shocking breakups from their respective partners the moment they entered USM.

Why have some couples failed, while other triumphed?
What have the successful ones done that the unsuccessful ones didn't?
What does the future have in store for the current couples in the corps that are separated (eg. Swee Lee) or soon to be separated (graduating members starting work in a different location).

For example, Chin Yee who is taking international business will be leaving overseas next year. What will become of her and Min Fey?

Most people say that it is only a year. But a year is a long time. Who knows what can happen in a year? Chin Yee, might catch the eye of some dark broodingly handsome Caucasian guy or decide to stay put overseas for career purposes. Min Fey might start finding himself falling for someone new in her absence. (Perhaps from the S&R department again?).

Are these couples bound for doom or will they grow even stronger?

How long will they last?
A day? A week? A month? 6 months? A year? Forever?
We'll just have to wait and see...

Just remember, forever is a long time...........
Ask yourself, are you prepared to sacrifice that long?

Till next time. XOXO.

-- Edited by evanquah at 15:56, 2008-04-27

-- Edited by evanquah at 16:13, 2008-04-27

-- Edited by evanquah at 22:42, 2008-04-28

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Wow Evan everything is a reason for you to start a new topic...

Mine also. Once he gets into Pulapol for training, we'll be separated for one year...

Sad...
But for the good, I believe this should be a minor hurdle *positive side*
^.^v

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Is this the reason why Mr. EQ does not start a relationship??????biggrinbiggrin

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Tell the truth, I don't want to give any comment on this relationship because it's in the future and no one knows what will happen. I just want to wish them still so close, respect and love each other even though they will apart soon. They're so match!smile

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Hello everyone,

I think you are all missing the message of my post. I want you all to share with me what in your opinions are the steps needed to make long-distance relationships work. By sharing with us, we can learn from the experience of others and take the precautions to avoid potential breakups.

Thanks.

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I suppose keeping in touch will help a lot, like call when you promise to call. Otherwise, your other half tend to get paranoid and gets carried away thinking what's going on the other side.

People are always taking things for granted. Always remind yourself what caught your heart about him/her in the first place.

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evanquah wrote:

Hello everyone,

I think you are all missing the message of my post. I want you all to share with me what in your opinions are the steps needed to make long-distance relationships work. By sharing with us, we can learn from the experience of others and take the precautions to avoid potential breakups.

Thanks.



 Well,

1. trust and faith, falter a bit = kereta mayat

2. contact, even e-mail will do. More than a week no news = kereta ambulans

3. stage of relationship. <5 years / both family only have a 'skim the surface' idea of each other = strike 3, you're out


IMHO, with the 3 combined, 1 in Alaska, 1 in Mongolia also can survive.

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Hehehe it's interesting to see that both SY and TY posted something here...

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hi all. long distance relation wont have any problem when both side put effort to make that work. if really trust n believe... (actually i dun support long distance but i know somehow it work for some couple-"especially mine").. hehesmile.. all couple must gambate!!


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THEBRICK wrote:

evanquah wrote:

Hello everyone,

I think you are all missing the message of my post. I want you all to share with me what in your opinions are the steps needed to make long-distance relationships work. By sharing with us, we can learn from the experience of others and take the precautions to avoid potential breakups.

Thanks.



 Well,

1. trust and faith, falter a bit = kereta mayat

2. contact, even e-mail will do. More than a week no news = kereta ambulans

3. stage of relationship. <5 years / both family only have a 'skim the surface' idea of each other = strike 3, you're out


IMHO, with the 3 combined, 1 in Alaska, 1 in Mongolia also can survive.
i agree quarterly, without no 2 n 3 its ok. but without no 1. the entire connection will break. i believe LD relationship would succeed just like the typical one. sorry  i aint no expert. just  my two pence.



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Wah... And this time two 'lou peng's give their two cents on love matters...

Haha...
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As we can see they're a very lovely couple, so cocok somemore, I think they can last the test of time.

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em..since my name was mentioned...i feel obligated to put in my 2 cents...

i was lucky...my better half was studying in a nursing college...so only surrounded by girls...low risk...
or else...if other university or college...high risk of being surrounded by buayas...
and easy for the buayas to take opportunities...

e.g...
she had a very bad day in the lab...kena marah cukup2 by lecturer or buli by seniors...need someone...and we can't even call...got stuck in the pool whole afternoon for lifesaving examinations...
once is fine...twice is ok...how about thrice or fourice or fice or sice or sevice or eice...?
the buayas are always there...ever ready...waiting for her to get weak...

you may think it is a sexist remark...
but i think the girls suffer more in a distant relationship...
the guys were generally stronger...they can take care of themselves...keep themselves entertained (how you interpret this statement is non of my business)...
i can go jog...swim...tesco...red house...anywhere...do anything...on my own...

but not the girls...
they always need someone...
this is just a general statement...my observation...
of course there are always exceptional cases...

so...my 2 cents...
girls...be strong...and have faith in your other half...only if they deserve it...
guys...be understanding...don't enjoy yourself too much...your better half may get jealous...

in a nutshell...
if possible...
AVOID distant relationship...

(i'm very lucky and thankful that my better half beared with me for the past 4 years...as i am writing these nonsense...she is sleeping next to me...poor girl just finished her night shift...)

-- Edited by MunPunG at 12:13, 2008-05-02

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Hello all,

Once again, very wise words from one of our senior Mun Pung. Especially since it is coming from first hand experience. Ladies and gentlemen take note of the advice given.

Beautifully put together.

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Tankiu MP for the 20 cents... I also experienced distance relationship before but it's hard to maintain. MP always giving good advices, TQ.

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dont maintain, keep the distance closer instead.. long distance wont last forever..

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Agree agree

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As expected from lou pengs, more wise words...
Hehe...


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Jo Lynn wrote:

As expected from lou pengs, more wise words...
Hehe...



doenst sound like a compliment geh..biggrin
anyway, i just join the fun about the topic. dint expect got people seconded my statement. hoho



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i m not agree with...that.... long distance still can work..just see how u manage it.. this is a good chance to test each other..how much TRUST FAITH LOVE CARE and so on...if they fail mean they still didnt give many love or trust to each other...... No matter wat happen love will always there..................

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jeng jeng jeng jeng~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Kenneth Koh is here....................~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hallooooooooooooo~~~~~~~~~~~`

hehe...
just to make myself visible....hahahaha


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oiii! Kenneth Koh, cute la ur appearance, hahaha!

yalo, long distance is depends on the 2 sides, not only one side efforts...
hehe... Ev Quah, dont worry about us, our faith is very strong to each other...

hoho!

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handsomejoshua wrote:

i m not agree with...that.... long distance still can work..just see how u manage it.. this is a good chance to test each other..how much TRUST FAITH LOVE CARE and so on...if they fail mean they still didnt give many love or trust to each other...... No matter wat happen love will always there..................


so happy to hear that..at least there is someone who notice the typical one aww

the only word i can say is that: faith....lol  aww

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hi, oh my so long never go forum liao, very sienz la go forum.

But for this, long distance relationship can work wan.
To maintain it must have the trust in each other.
Both of them have trust with each other.-MF,CY

my suggestion
Min fey - give one of the mice to chinyee la- so when she sees it she feel ur presence
haha - cos the mice look as silly as you, think can run away when running on the exercise wheel
haha

for chin yee - i give u one of my mice to give to minfey la cos they are female, when he look at it also will think bout u la, also same same one

Hahahahahahahahhahahaha~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~


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nexus wrote:

hi, oh my so long never go forum liao, very sienz la go forum.

But for this, long distance relationship can work wan.
To maintain it must have the trust in each other.
Both of them have trust with each other.-MF,CY

my suggestion
Min fey - give one of the mice to chinyee la- so when she sees it she feel ur presence
haha - cos the mice look as silly as you, think can run away when running on the exercise wheel
haha

for chin yee - i give u one of my mice to give to minfey la cos they are female, when he look at it also will think bout u la, also same same one

Hahahahahahahahhahahaha~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~



 Should've ask MF to present CY with a chimpanzee, think he looks more like a chimpanzee, with bad teeth compared to a mice leh....



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HEHEHEHE...thank you very much teen yuen...eat u one day later...haha...bring me go lim jiu...

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Airchek wrote:

HEHEHEHE...thank you very much teen yuen...eat u one day later...haha...bring me go lim jiu...



 Hahaha, you want to drink till you drop?



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THEBRICK wrote:

nexus wrote:
 Should've ask MF to present CY with a chimpanzee, think he looks more like a chimpanzee, with bad teeth compared to a mice leh....

Though I totally agree with you that MF does look more like a chimp, where on earth would he get one. But great comment anyway. Made me laugh till my tummy hurt.



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