Hey there ladies, I'm sure some of you have experienced this scenario. You're about to leave the house, and you feel like your worth a million bucks. You put on your best top, sexiest pair of heels and your favorite mini-skirt. You look in the mirror and think to yourself, Damn! I'm hot! You feel like you're a contestent on America's Next Top Model.
Just then, your boyfriend walks in and tells you that he doesn't want you to wear the mini-skirt out in public. What do you do?Have you ever experienced an overcontrolling boyfriend in your relationships? For example, the kind which dictates everything in your life, from how you dress, to who you hang out with and where you go. How do you deal with this?
This brings me to the topic of my discussion, do you let your man decide such things in your life? Does this mentality among the men set feminism back 200 years? Are women not empowered and independent enough in this modern day to decide matters for themselves.
This is the funny thing about the male race. While, some men are so insecure with themselves and are worried when their girlfriends want to dress up (even if it is for them), there are others that gloat and proud at the idea that they have a hot chick on their arms. She is their prized trophy.
Share with me your thoughts. From both the girls and guys point of view.
p.s. : In my opinion, gals, don't give a **** what he thinks, it is your right. You owe it to yourselves to look sexy if you like and dress as you wish.
While I was a lil bit smaller last time, I like to wear skirts and he liked it. No control over my clothes. In fact, I controlled his taste of clothing. As long as the girl is not dressing too over (like half of the breast is coming out, the skirt is short untill the pantie is almost visible), I think it's ok. But hopefully the crime rate won't increase la..
I wonder is there some natural personality in guys who like to control everything of the girls? Behaving like a king of nobody.
My ex used to be pretty much controlling too. Going out alone with guys is a definite NO. Even going out with a bunch of friends, I will be bombarded with questions like who they are, what's the relationship between them and I etc etc. At first, being naive I thought it was expected of him to be 'caring and concerned', but after a while, it was just too suffocating.
I think some point of control, like it or not, has to be exercised, for example, if you used to flirt all the time, your partner would not appreciate it if you were all over his buddies.
I am proud to say that my other half does not chain me down, but of course, I do know my limit.
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Hey there ladies, I'm sure some of you have experienced this scenario. You're about to leave the house, and you feel like your worth a million bucks. You put on your best top, sexiest pair of heels and your favorite mini-skirt...Just then, your boyfriend walks in and tells you that he doesn't want you to wear the mini-skirt out in public.
Heels? Mini skirt? You posted it half a day ago... Hey are you talking about me that day in swimming pool? =.= Haha...
First rime i saw SY in here. Congrate, u're finally up. Haha.
Since evan says wan some guys opinions, then mine one is up. Haha.
Actually, i really happy that my partner willing to make herself look nice lo. Doesn't matter as long as don like what MC mention (Put out half biji like football game... Haha). As mentioned by Evan oso, sometimes will u jealous looking at other guys having a sexier gf than u do?? Or u better like ur gf bungkus like a mummy or most of our 'frens' in MALAYSIA here? Think about it.
The design of some clothes is mean to wear, not to put inside a cupboard lo. So girls, just go ahead. For guys, if they really love u, they won't run away no matter how strong the influence are unless u're too bad for them la. Clothes never will become an issue between a couple, for me la.
i believe my other half should have known what i like and what i don't... after all...understanding mar... frankly...guys would love to stare at strangers' half breast... but who would "love" strangers to stare at your girlfriend's half breast or panty line or sexy thigh?... em...except those kinky...dunno what's the term...
having said that... its up to her to decide... if that's what she want... i have no objection...
looking good would be enough... looking great would be a bonus... looking HOT... em...that is something else beyond my naive understanding...
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Hey there ladies, I'm sure some of you have experienced this scenario. You're about to leave the house, and you feel like your worth a million bucks. You put on your best top, sexiest pair of heels and your favorite mini-skirt...Just then, your boyfriend walks in and tells you that he doesn't want you to wear the mini-skirt out in public.
Heels? Mini skirt? You posted it half a day ago... Hey are you talking about me that day in swimming pool? =.= Haha...
First rime i saw SY in here. Congrate, u're finally up. Haha.
Since evan says wan some guys opinions, then mine one is up. Haha.
Actually, i really happy that my partner willing to make herself look nice lo. Doesn't matter as long as don like what MC mention (Put out half biji like football game... Haha). As mentioned by Evan oso, sometimes will u jealous looking at other guys having a sexier gf than u do?? Or u better like ur gf bungkus like a mummy or most of our 'frens' in MALAYSIA here? Think about it.
The design of some clothes is mean to wear, not to put inside a cupboard lo. So girls, just go ahead. For guys, if they really love u, they won't run away no matter how strong the influence are unless u're too bad for them la. Clothes never will become an issue between a couple, for me la.
Yo Soon Jiun,
This are so far the best comments you have posted on this forum. Loved the football game and bungkus like mummy comments.
A TYPICAL GUY will like to stare at girls doing a Manchester United. (MU, in Ah Long Pte Ltd, means 'pang pua liap'). But on the other hand, if their GF does a MU, they'll go: #@&*&^%$^#&%$^!!!!
A TYPICAL GUY will like to grab another pretty girl and boast like the girl's a trophy, but when his GF is taken like a trophy, the GUY will beat the other GUY.
A TYPICAL GUY will like to be in power. I.E.: dictate what the GF wears, eats, drinks, where to hang out, who to mix, etc...etc... But will tell his SIS: Don't need to listen to your BF wan, listen to me, you are the QUEEN!!!!
TO A TYPICAL GUY, talking to a girl is socializing. But when his GF talks to a GUY, she is flirting....
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Subtleties in Life, is never subtle at all. -The Brick- Knowledge speaks, but Wisdom listens. -Jimi Hendrix- Drops of Courage, Tons of Blood. -The Plagiarist- Uncertainties in Life, is never uncertain at all. -The Brick-
A TYPICAL GUY will like to stare at girls doing a Manchester United. (MU, in Ah Long Pte Ltd, means 'pang pua liap'). But on the other hand, if their GF does a MU, they'll go: #@&*&^%$^#&%$^!!!!
A TYPICAL GUY will like to grab another pretty girl and boast like the girl's a trophy, but when his GF is taken like a trophy, the GUY will beat the other GUY.
A TYPICAL GUY will like to be in power. I.E.: dictate what the GF wears, eats, drinks, where to hang out, who to mix, etc...etc... But will tell his SIS: Don't need to listen to your BF wan, listen to me, you are the QUEEN!!!!
TO A TYPICAL GUY, talking to a girl is socializing. But when his GF talks to a GUY, she is flirting....
A TYPICAL GUY will like to stare at girls doing a Manchester United. (MU, in Ah Long Pte Ltd, means 'pang pua liap'). But on the other hand, if their GF does a MU, they'll go: #@&*&^%$^#&%$^!!!!
A TYPICAL GUY will like to grab another pretty girl and boast like the girl's a trophy, but when his GF is taken like a trophy, the GUY will beat the other GUY.
A TYPICAL GUY will like to be in power. I.E.: dictate what the GF wears, eats, drinks, where to hang out, who to mix, etc...etc... But will tell his SIS: Don't need to listen to your BF wan, listen to me, you are the QUEEN!!!!
TO A TYPICAL GUY, talking to a girl is socializing. But when his GF talks to a GUY, she is flirting....
TY's posts are always so nice and make sence. Good! For some conservative thinking people, dressing sexy is a sign of "hiao", "cheap" and "look like prostitute". Sad...
A TYPICAL GUY will like to stare at girls doing a Manchester United. (MU, in Ah Long Pte Ltd, means 'pang pua liap'). But on the other hand, if their GF does a MU, they'll go: #@&*&^%$^#&%$^!!!!
A TYPICAL GUY will like to grab another pretty girl and boast like the girl's a trophy, but when his GF is taken like a trophy, the GUY will beat the other GUY.
A TYPICAL GUY will like to be in power. I.E.: dictate what the GF wears, eats, drinks, where to hang out, who to mix, etc...etc... But will tell his SIS: Don't need to listen to your BF wan, listen to me, you are the QUEEN!!!!
TO A TYPICAL GUY, talking to a girl is socializing. But when his GF talks to a GUY, she is flirting....
TY's posts are always so nice and make sence. Good! For some conservative thinking people, dressing sexy is a sign of "hiao", "cheap" and "look like prostitute". Sad...
And to fufill that view, 1 will not be able to follow the most current fashion, which, unfortunately, is where the world's heading too.... Frankly, today is not 50 years back, condom's not a taboo, sex's as normal as going for a date....
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Hmmm 4 me, i cant accept my partner trying 2 control me lar. (if i got 1 lar) I like freedom... i dun 1 another 'daddy' 2 control me :) And i like 2 join around with a lot of friends... So i thk most ppl cant accept me gua.. haha!!! Btw, i din wear sexy and hot shirt... so... haa... I thk ppl will feel sien gua~ *Say yay 2 gupo house ;) *
Hmmm 4 me, i cant accept my partner trying 2 control me lar. (if i got 1 lar) I like freedom... i dun 1 another 'daddy' 2 control me :) And i like 2 join around with a lot of friends... So i thk most ppl cant accept me gua.. haha!!! Btw, i din wear sexy and hot shirt... so... haa... I thk ppl will feel sien gua~ *Say yay 2 gupo house ;) *
Ms. Sotong, don't think like that. You have a special personality, easy to go with and even you're blur, but that makes you even more cute. Have confidence in yourself, someday, sometime, someone will know how good you are. Sexy is attractive, but it's not a major fact to look for a boyfriend. You don't want a boyfriend who just love your sexy but not appreciate you right? Time will come someday. Be more outgoing and don't be so shy.
Frankly, both sides will not agree into getting controlled by the other party. Either way, just like Mun Pung said, it takes compromising and understanding, loads of it. Everyday being together is another new learning day, for each other. :)
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Haa, i cant really mix well with ppl who din talk/noe me.... Haa, tats y i always look so blur... 2 shy ba~ Haa, Then hope that someday sometime some1 will notice me lar
Haa, i cant really mix well with ppl who din talk/noe me.... Haa, tats y i always look so blur... 2 shy ba~ Haa, Then hope that someday sometime some1 will notice me lar
Right, I'll help to promote you around. Don't need to feel shy. I'll come up with a marketing proposal so fantastic that guys will not resist. Need to ask my image sifoo Datuk Prof. Dr. AVANT QUAH on this!!!!
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Subtleties in Life, is never subtle at all. -The Brick- Knowledge speaks, but Wisdom listens. -Jimi Hendrix- Drops of Courage, Tons of Blood. -The Plagiarist- Uncertainties in Life, is never uncertain at all. -The Brick-
i m the kind oso like evan n sotong..like freedom and hate to be controlled... luckily my ex nvr control me in my life..hahaha...hope my future oso dont like to control me..if not..bye bye la...i m ady an adult and not an inanimate doll...although maybe sumtimes tis is called love and concern...^^v..
i m the kind oso like evan n sotong..like freedom and hate to be controlled... luckily my ex nvr control me in my life..hahaha...hope my future oso dont like to control me..if not..bye bye la...i m ady an adult and not an inanimate doll...although maybe sumtimes tis is called love and concern...^^v..
love -> concern -> control -> WRONG! love -> concern -> suspicion -> WRONG! love -> concern -> envious -> WRONG!
love -> concern -> understanding -> CORRECT! love -> concern -> trust -> CORRECT!
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Subtleties in Life, is never subtle at all. -The Brick- Knowledge speaks, but Wisdom listens. -Jimi Hendrix- Drops of Courage, Tons of Blood. -The Plagiarist- Uncertainties in Life, is never uncertain at all. -The Brick-
Haa, i cant really mix well with ppl who din talk/noe me.... Haa, tats y i always look so blur... 2 shy ba~ Haa, Then hope that someday sometime some1 will notice me lar
To: Sotong,
Not to worry, my dear, I have it on good knowledge that you have already captured the eye of someone. He's the dark and mysterious type. Got it from a reliable source.
Haa, i cant really mix well with ppl who din talk/noe me.... Haa, tats y i always look so blur... 2 shy ba~ Haa, Then hope that someday sometime some1 will notice me lar
Right, I'll help to promote you around. Don't need to feel shy. I'll come up with a marketing proposal so fantastic that guys will not resist. Need to ask my image sifoo Datuk Prof. Dr. AVANT QUAH on this!!!!
Yo Bro,
What's this? Jangan jangan nak jadi macam Alex pula. That discussion in Interaction Day section. By the way, since when did I become an image consultant?? First Su Yin wants me to be fashiondesigner, now this??
love -> concern -> control -> WRONG! love -> concern -> suspicion -> WRONG! love -> concern -> envious -> WRONG!
love -> concern -> understanding -> CORRECT! love -> concern -> trust -> CORRECT!
ok...
now a just-finished-his-final-final-exam science student is attempting to simplify these very complicated equations...
first...if... love -> concern -> control -> WRONG! love -> concern -> suspicion -> WRONG! love -> concern -> envious -> WRONG!
therefore... control + suspicion + envious -//-> love + concern
maybe... control + suspicion + envious ----> lust + crush...?
not conclusive... need more data to support...
next...if... love -> concern -> understanding -> CORRECT! love -> concern -> trust -> CORRECT!
therefore... love + concern --> understanding + trust
but... as time progress to infinity... understanding is getting very similar to trust... the difference between these two parameters is almost neglectable... thus both can be replaced with...faith...
and... time progress to infinity ----> eternal
so when we resubstitute faith back into the equation... with time progressing to infinity...
i got...
faith ----> eternal love
EUREKA!!!
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love -> concern -> control -> WRONG! love -> concern -> suspicion -> WRONG! love -> concern -> envious -> WRONG!
love -> concern -> understanding -> CORRECT! love -> concern -> trust -> CORRECT!
ok...
now a just-finished-his-final-final-exam science student is attempting to simplify these very complicated equations...
first...if... love -> concern -> control -> WRONG! love -> concern -> suspicion -> WRONG! love -> concern -> envious -> WRONG!
therefore... control + suspicion + envious -//-> love + concern
maybe... control + suspicion + envious ----> lust + crush...?
not conclusive... need more data to support...
next...if... love -> concern -> understanding -> CORRECT! love -> concern -> trust -> CORRECT!
therefore... love + concern --> understanding + trust
but... as time progress to infinity... understanding is getting very similar to trust... the difference between these two parameters is almost neglectable... thus both can be replaced with...faith...
and... time progress to infinity ----> eternal
so when we resubstitute faith back into the equation... with time progressing to infinity...
Yea, this is a classical theory of luv but experimental result =/= standard result u obtain... So, i thk there is sum quantum theory behind... v complicated
well, used to control each other last time with my ex...but now in uni d...really think wat i done in past relation is so foolish n childish.....so, get better relation now...hahaha..although my gf is kind of controlling me stimes(im not happy) but still i think she is a good gf coz she can tahan my attitude...wakakakaka...im flying to middle east soon....missing her while at the same time i can have fun there...hehehe.....
well, used to control each other last time with my ex...but now in uni d...really think wat i done in past relation is so foolish n childish.....so, get better relation now...hahaha..although my gf is kind of controlling me stimes(im not happy) but still i think she is a good gf coz she can tahan my attitude...wakakakaka...im flying to middle east soon....missing her while at the same time i can have fun there...hehehe.....
People grows up, it's good you realised that controlling is not fun at all. Good luck to your middle east trip!
oh my i have been so outdated. i know there is one guy tat doesnt mind how his gf's socialize or anything. Hehehe, he is dark and mysterious and scary tooo... evan should know. u know why he doesnt control much cos he has a lot gfs thats why.
too much control will lead to misunderstanding which ends up with breaking up
ooo.... how come the topic has become discussing over "LOVE" ad leh?? hehe...
i think there is always certain "control" over the gf. guys always like to see other gals n dun wan their gal to be "observe" by other guys.. this is one type of control. nature of guy.
control will not be a pro when there is a limit prevent u to overdo it. ^^
just be yourself.. dont like it, then dont start a relationship..
why most of the updated posts are about relationship.. is this wat u guys learn in the corphow about a topic like 'ian thorpe is my inspiration'?? or 'i am in love with swimming pool'??
But then again Raymond, this is exactly where the fun is If you notice, it has transformed Evan, who is no-cyber-social hopeless to cyber-gossip maestro :rotfl:
My post are meant as light-hearted banter. They are nothing serious and are are just merely for fun. Besides, relationships are a very important part in the lives of many members in the corps, and we can gain a little from each others experience.
In addition, after spending so much time at the pool, I believe the last thing on everyone's mind is to keep discussing it on the forum. This section is a form of escapism for members to have a little fun.
There are already other sections of this forum dedicated to discussions on the pool. This section is meant gossip...
Evan last time also not really pat kua one... Now ah.... Can become the moderator of this topic liao lo.... Haha... So just enjoy it la Raymond... Hehe...
Evan last time also not really pat kua one... Now ah.... Can become the moderator of this topic liao lo.... Haha... So just enjoy it la Raymond... Hehe...
Pai seh la Evan... Hehe..
To: Soon Jiun,
You must remember, I'm only concerned for the well being of the members. I'm so thoughtful to think of you all and you all say that I'm pat kua.
Haha... Is true that is ur job to know everyone stuff... Evan... Don cry la... Haha... But what i say also a fact le... I know la... U're good papa la... Haha... Take care everyone of the son in the corp la... Hehe... Don't cry la... hehe
But then again Raymond, this is exactly where the fun is If you notice, it has transformed Evan, who is no-cyber-social hopeless to cyber-gossip maestro :rotfl:
i see.. i will visit the forum frequently to catch up with gossip stories